Sunday, 27 September 2015

This Too Shall Pass

Probably one of my most hated phrases when it comes to parenting; This too shall pass.

Unfortunately it can sometimes take years for 'this' to pass and even if it passes quickly, when you're in the depths of it all, it means sweet FA that it'll end at some indeterminate point in the future.

A week ago I had a really rough day. I spent the whole day on the verge of, or in actual, tears. I googled symptoms of post natal depression. I googled sleep deprivation. I didn't want to leave the house.

It turns out I was exhausted and it was the wrong time of the month to be exhausted. I'd had about three hours sleep and my hormones were raging. The following day I felt a bit better. Two days later I felt completely fine.

But that day I was so completely overwhelmed by the thought of getting up and parenting over and over again, day in, day out. And ironically it was my children who helped me put things in perspective. Not the kids directly, but a CD the eldest insists on listening to every time we get into the car; the Disney Cars soundtrack.

One of the songs, Behind the Clouds by Brad Paisley has this line:


I listened to this and got a bit choked. It made me realise that just because I was having a bad day, it didn't mean it would last forever. It just felt like it at the time.

And even though it pained me to say it to myself, I knew that this too would pass.

Cuddle Fairy

10 comments:

  1. In the depths of things it is so hard to feel that change is possible and motherhood can really take us there. The effects of exhaustion are always a surprise. I used to wonder what was wrong with me and why I wasn't enjoying anything. then I would get a few nights of sleep and the world seemed a much better place. I am glad you had something to give you hope. Wishing you more sleep and better days. Kirsten

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    1. Thank you xx sleep deprivation has a lot to answer for! Xx

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  2. Have you ever thought of using this phrase as a positive? I've thought about it many a time in my life and it's me get through some tough times. For example, I may be in a horrible situation and I would just think to myself 'it's nott going to last forever.'

    Sometimes negatives can be positives, it just depends on how they fit into our lives.

    Thanks for sharing #candidcuddles

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    1. Yeah I think the song lyrics helped me contextualise the This Too Shall Pass phrase as it gave it more perspective for me :)

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  3. This is one of my favourite quotes ever, and definitely one that applies very well to child-rearing I think, with all the little phases that they go through that can occasionally be trying!

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    1. It's very true - and looking back, it does pass so quickly. But I've always struggled to find comfort in that before I heard these song lyrics! :)

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  4. Great quote, it's sometimes hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but sometimes just knowing its there is enough! #candidcuddles
    Debbie

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    1. Absolutely - the song lyrics contextualised the phrase for me really - gave it the perspective I needed! :)

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  5. Popping over from #candidcuddles =) Nothing lasts forever, even bad days =) Glad your're feeling better, and you're not alone. We all have those days.

    Come share your crafts, DIY's, recipes & up-cycles at #2usestuesday (Mon PM to Fri PM) & your pinnable images at #Pinbellish (Fri AM to Tues AM) over at Sarah Celebrates if you don't already!

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  6. I think people who say this too shall pass are experienced in life & have learned this over & over again. With babies it feels like a phase will never end but looking back, it was a short amount of time. Beautiful quote & story hun. Thanks so much for sharing with #candidcuddles x

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