Sunday, 27 September 2015

I'm Dating a Married Man

I know - it's shocking. But before you get all judgemental, I should say that his wife doesn't mind. Neither does my husband.

Because I'm married too. Just like him.

In fact, I'm married to him.

Now, before I even get started, let me freely admit that I don't profess to have a secret recipe for a long and happy marriage. We have only been married for four years and only together six.

But we have always promised to nurture our relationship, even now we have children. Our children are a result of our relationship and not the other way around and I can honestly say I love my husband more now than I did when we first got together.

I get excited when he comes home from work.

We make an effort for each other (he goes to the gym, I try not to wear pyjamas all day).

I miss him if he's working a long day.

I find him ridiculously attractive.

I melt when I see him with the kids.

I look forward to spending time just the two of us, even if it's a night in on the sofa with a bottle of wine.

But that hasn't just 'happened'. We make time for each other. Sometimes we can get babysitters (sometimes even overnight!) and we go to the theatre or to the pub or on a mini break. Sometimes we can't get babysitters but he'll come home from golf early, we'll put the kids to bed and we'll have a nice meal, make mojitos (and drink them, obviously) and watch a film.

Some days he irritates me so much I slam cupboard doors and huff a lot and I know that, most days, I do the same to him. In fact, on his return from a golf overnighter the other week, he gave me the following, romantic speech:

"I really missed you. Which is surprising because you really annoy me when I'm here."

We annoy each other. But my children annoy me sometimes and I love them from the depths of my heart.

And the same goes for my husband. Not because it's convenient. Not because it's easy. But because I still love getting dressed up and going for dinner with him. I love finding out things I never knew about him. I love how we have little jokes that only we understand.

I love him. And I hope we keep dating. Because that's what keeps me going when he's irritating the hell out of me ;)



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4 comments:

  1. Ah that's beautiful. I think it's so easy to just get swept away in parenthood and sometimes forget each other (*slaps own wrist). I agree that it's so important to make time for each other. You sound like you've got it nailed! :0)

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  2. Lovely :) I feel exactly the same towards my wife. We have date nights and I love them and really look forward to that time together. Thanks for linking up #bigfatlinky

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  3. Ahhh lovely post honey, glad you've rediscovered your relationship! My hubby and I are having a weekend away in two weeks and I cannot wait!! Thanks so much for sharing with DiffLinky xx

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  4. What a lovely tribute to your husband. Beautifully written. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. I hope to see you again tomorrow for another great round. #sharewithme

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